Isn’t it strange how two children who were raised in the same environment, with the same rules, and same teachings can be such opposites? My son Sebastian is 27 months old, my daughter, Layla, will be a year old this month, so even in spite of their proximity in age, they are not alike at all.
Sebastian is very observant and pensive. He seems way too serious for his age, but he is happy and insanely sweet. He is very sensitive though. If I am upset about something, he senses it and is a total wreck.
Layla is one tough bitch, and I mean that in the best way a mother can call her infant a bitch. She is loud, rambunctious, mischievous and nearly nothing upsets her. She is all smiles too, so if she is crying, there is a legitimate reason. I also never have to worry about my son playing too rough with his baby sister, because frankly, she is always kicking his ass.
Even at the dinner table, these two have completely different appetites. He is peckish to say the least, hardly ever wanting to sit still to eat. Layla, is like a bulldozer and will eat that if you aren’t going to finish it. They do both share an odd affinity, and by that I mean, a pure ever-loving obsession with fruits and vegetables. This is something I totally understand because a majority of my daily intake is fruits and vegetables, can’t get enough of that stuff.
My brother and I are different in many ways, but most of those things have to do with our birth order. He is the older sibling and acts accordingly. My mother and her siblings are so bizarre that at family gatherings, I often forget that they were raised together and not just 5 people who knew each other, kinda, back when they were kids.
So what is the reasoning for these vast differences in personalities, even with the exact same factors that go into raising children? Often people think it has to do with gender, and the way parents treat their children differently because of societal norms. Reflecting on the way I treat my son and daughter, I can say without hesitation that there is no biases or gender stereotypes that I place on them. I am extremely liberal in my parenting, relaxed and open-minded about any kind of person they want to become no matter their young age. So what is it? What is it that causes these polar opposite sibling situations?